Why??

My cousin's wedding is just round the corner. No the 'why' is not connected to this, 'why not' would be more appropriate. Point is 'why' are they disussing plans with everybody. To make myself more clear, why are they, as in her parents, discussing the wedding plans with my family and my chotokaku's family and no 'why not' is not more appropriate here. You still haven't got it right? See this is a trend in Indian families. "ladki/ladkey ki shadi hai, humsey to poocha hi nahin, this could have been done in a much better way had we been involved.." these, mark, are words spoken by relatives of the would-be's. To avoid these talks, all and sundry are involved in the wedding plans and then follows, "bas itna hi budget hai, ismein kuch nahin hoga. Wahan book mat karo, its out of the way, why dont you'll book near our place (which is an expensive area 'lol'), and, WHAT?, Plywood, no way it must be teak... (sigh!)". These words, hear, hear, are spoken by the very helpful relatives, notwithstanding my great dad w.r.t. my cousin's marriage, who surely and completely forget that they are not paying for the wedding! Why can't relatives strive to make the process easier? This is not to imply that some people don't but, let's accept facts, most don't. Now why not plywood, why only teak, why not wrought iron, in fact why either. Talk about eligible bachelors! Why do these men suddenly need new beds, cupboards, etc.? Ok they don't? It's a matter of the bride's parents' status? Well that settles it then, its just a one way status question. Surely the takers don't have much of it.

Why can't I be a bit more patient with these people. Why can't I accept the simple explanation.."this is how things are done".

Anyways, I wish my cousin All the Best.