Lovespeak continued

Don’t know why, but Love makes me think of Roses! Kal Ho Na Ho....oooh they were absolutely beautiful. You see even I am incurably romantic, completely taken in by candlelight dinners, cosy dark rooms, downy bed and... the obvious. There see, even I cannot think of love as something purely emotional. But that's the basic point... the question as to whether love is something to do with sexual awakening/puberty is wrong. Firstly it is important to realise which love are we talking about. If it is the man-woman bonding (please not the incestuous stuff!!), then "YES" it does have a lot to do with "SEX". In this regard I partly agree with Shaw. No, I dont believe that women weave nets to ensnare the man, but I do believe that subconsciously both sexes judge as to how comfortable they would be in bed with say x y z (i.e. the human options). Of course the self righteous would find this absolutely shocking but if you have the guts to be honest with yourself, then you'll see how true this is. Well lots of affairs are born after years of knowing one another... in that case what is more important is the matching of the emotional wavelength but, ask me cause I know, if even once there is the feeling that you'd be repelled to say sleep with the man/woman in concern, I am sure you would then not go in for a relationship. Ofcourse, there is always the counter argument that when you love the person's thoughts, his emotions, you love the person in toto!! But that I feel is idealistic. There was this man in my ex-office, who, both my fren and me agreed, had just the brain that we would love in our MAN! You see, even though emotionally and intellectually we liked this man, we didn'y exactly want him to be our boyfriend/husband — the main reason being we didn't like the idea of sleeping with him! So, love does have a lot to do with hormones, i.e. sex, BUT — here is the twist — love is not all about sex. Ah! now that sounds familiar, doesn't it?
Essentially, the love that we are talking about is a realisation that dawns after puberty. One generally becomes conscious about all this after this point... so hormones definitely have a role to play in the sexual awakening. But just being sexually attracted to someone does not mean that you are in love with that person. Such attraction is just Lust. And it is upto the individual to know which is just lust and which is love. Now, it is known that men are by nature polygamous and also generally with a greater libido. (Ok I agree that the latter is also greatly due to the social setup where women are taught to believe that they must curb their sexual instincts). So chances are greater of men mistaking lust for love than the vise versa. But from experience, I can tell you, when you find someone who you like not because he/she shares your views but rather because that person enhances your perception with views of his/her own while maintaining a respect for what you think and at the same time you feel the urge to calm your troubled mind by resting your head on his/her shoulder....well then guess what you are well on your way to love that person!! And what is more, this is definitely not pure lust. In essence, it is first important to find in that person a friend and then the lover, to find in that person a combination of someone you can pillow fight with and curl up with, and most importantly to find in that person someone with whom you can sit silently in happy companionship and at the same time feel the driving urge to love passionately.

I just wrote quite a bit on love. It ultimately comes to that, doesn't it? Writing on love. Ok, now i shall go talk to love ;)!!